Blue-Balls For Emotional Blackmail

I don’t know about you, but most girls I know have once or more encountered men who have used ‘painful’ blueballs as an escuse to have their way with them..

Usually, women are said to be the most manipulative gender because it is assumed that we are soft and can fake tears which gets men to do what we want for us.

Now, imagine finding yourself in a situation where a man friend of yours, who you respect or have had a wonderful ‘clean’ time with, suddenly becomes hard down there because of their high libidos or because they can’t control themselves and suddenly you notice a switch of personalities.

Like the once sweet guy you knew or very confident mature guy you knew suddenly becomes desperate and begs you to open your legs for him because he needs to let loose in order to avoid getting blue-balls.

Imagine that guy going down on his knees, in tears, giving you countless number of reasons why the pain from blue-balls is unbearable and worth classifying as a near-death experience

Imagine that guy sounding like blue-balls is worse than labor pain or even, menstrual pain that we, women, have to deal with every single month till we reach menopause

That is how bad this emotional blackmail is and sadly, they get girls to give in because we are too soft or too naive to know that we are just been used

It’s high time you stopped this guys.. We are tired and will not allow you deceive us into opening our legs for you just because you just cannot control your sexual urge

Most of you girls reading this can relate. I’m not saying everyone falls for this blackmail; some ladies are very assertive and once they say ‘no,’ there’s no way they’ll change their minds. Others too say ‘no’ but in the end give in to the guy when they say, ‘oh okay, I want just a blow job or just give me a hand job. I just want to cum, please’

Look at that, who has ever died of blue balls and even if it is painful, it is nothing like menstrual pain so I don’t see the point in using that as a bait to get girls.. Girls! It’s time to man up and stop letting these men take advantage of our weakness..

Personally, I’ve come across this situation a few times and anytime it happened, I lost every respect I have for the guy.. it’s so shameful how low they stoop to use blue-balls to get into our pants.. it’s really shameful and trust me, most girls feel the same way about such men

If it’s something you find yourself doing, you gotta stop. And woman, once again stop letting men take advantage of your softness! Don’t let a man in if you don’t feel like it or if you don’t want to. If he forces you, charge him with rape and if he uses blueballs as an excuse, he’s not worth it!

Did you enjoy reading? What do you think about the post? Have an experience you want to share? Or have a confession? Go ahead and leave them in the comments or just send me a mail and I will reply shortly

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Ami Shikah is a Certified Sex Coach, clinical sexologist, and radio personality with an Advanced Postgraduate Diploma in Global Sexual and Reproductive Health Management. She loves anything and everything sex as long as it is consensual, pleasurable and free of any form of discrimination, harm or violence. On this blog, her aim is to promote sexual literacy, provide a source of arousal, and promote sexual wellness. If you need to talk to a sex professional about your sexual concerns or issues, she is the one to talk to. She can help you solve your sexual problems. She will help you have the most amazing sexual experiences and live the sex life of your dreams. Sex is a basic need and a natural part of who we are as human beings. Exercise your right to sexual pleasure today! Email her at amishikah@gmail.com for a complimentary sex coaching session.


  1. just stop ok, forget the word sex expert, u claim to have sexual knowledge about men,something u don't know shit about. the whole point of your blog is to advocate feminine superiority.most of the guys who want to utilize the full effects of testosterone exhibit sexual abstinence, and in due time that give rise to blue balls. this shit doesn't even involve women(both in reality and in internet). this pain occurs for about half an hour and hurt like fucking hell... this has nothing to do with guys using women as pawns for their sexual acts.. sometimes u can't even cum, it hurts that bad. so sorry honey if some guy made u jerk him of on the pretext of blue balls. but evidently u don't know shit ! so just shut up !!!

    • Thanks for your comment. However, in my submission I didn't speak for all men but those who do this consciously to get women.
      Also, you seeing my blog as a feminist standpoint can be understood since you obviously are looking on with male lenses. However, I respect your opinion since everyone is entitled to his own. This doesn't mean it should be demeaning either. Air out your comments with respect and diligence. Thank You!

  2. And what if she’s the one that made you horny in the first place.??

    • Well, if in the long run, she doesn’t want to have sex with you, let her go.. all the talks in the end could lead to sth else.. like, ‘I didn’t want to do it. He forced me.’

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