What is the essence of having sex if you don’t cum? Several women out there do not get to have a feel of it and unless they touch themselves, some won’t even know what an orgasm feels like. People assume it’s just a fallacy, guys especially, that women barely cum during sex because of our loud moans and cuss words; they assume that is all there is to it. Once she moans and screams your name and says ‘Fuck’ or ‘shit’ a million times, she’s been pleasured enough and once he’s done letting off his load, he can lay back and assume she’s on the same page with him. How funny!

Moaning doesn’t signify orgasm. Moaning signifies pleasure or some girls just moan because they assume that’s how it’s supposed to be done. Once he starts touching you, you need to moan, more like an obligation instead of it being something you let out as a result of the sensations created by whatever he’s doing to your body.

Enough of that! I have some tips for you. You should read and try them out and increase chances of giving your girl an orgasm. Trust me, when a number of sexually active women sit down to talk about their sex lives, you’ll find that a majority of them haven’t experienced an orgasm before, unknown to their men. Though it’s not cool that they keep you in the dark, all you can do is to up your games and blow their minds when they least expect it.

NOTE: After the first orgasm, which is difficult to arrive at, the subsequent ones come easily.


  • Anxiety
  • How she feels about you
  • Negative feelings about being sexual
  • Sexual trauma
  • Religious upbringing
  • Negative body image


The body responds to stimulation easily and more quickly when she’s mentally aroused.

Get her to be comfortable, talk to her mind, let her find sex appealing and make her want to do the nastiest things with you. Talk about sex with her, tell her the amazing things you wish to do to her body, let her anticipate your touch before you even meet up and send her provocative texts throughout the day. Don’t forget to compliment every part of her body; talk about how beautiful her vagina is, how perfect her boobs are and how artistic God is to have crafted a body like hers. That should make her open up easily when its time and it’ll let her embrace every pleasurable thing you do to her body to trigger an orgasmic response.

For women: Explore your bodies. Accept that there’s no one perfect vagina look. As far as you are infection-free, with no weird discharge, odor and you are in great shape down there, you are good to go. Learn to appreciate what you look like down there, and don’t hold back when you get with a man. LET GO! Open your legs so wide, push his head downwards, let him eat it, let him devour it and enjoy every bit of the sensations it creates.

You can’t have an orgasm if you don’t let go and note this, masturbation helps.

Masturbation makes it easy for that orgasmic response to be established in your body. Once that is happens, not one but a number of orgasms will come running to you when you least expect it.



I know it’s a thing for women to have vibrators but did you know that men could own vibrators too? Imagine putting a vibrator on a girl’s clit, the most sensitive part of a female’s body. Imagine leaving the vibrator on that clit while fingering her or while sticking your dick in and out of her vagina. Imagine the electric sparks that’ll be created. Imagine how aroused she’ll be and how her mind will be taken off everything else and she’ll be whisked away into an amazing place in the sexual realm.

Also, how about imagining yourself shoving the vibrator inside her after you’ve cum and she’s still horny with her swollen clit and she wants more. Imagine leaving that vibrator inside her and moving it in and out to stimulate her G-spot to the point of making her cum with that gush of fluid that you rarely see happen, except in porn. Most of you haven’t experienced the above because you don’t own a vibrator or maybe you thought it was made for women alone. Let me correct you, a vibrator can elevate your sexual life from the lowest to the highest point ever, just because the woman always ends up sexually satisfied.

What are you waiting for? Place an order and get your vibrator delivered to you.


It is true that when a woman is aroused, she floods her panties making easy to go inside her with less friction. That’s true but adding a drop of lubricant makes it extra, especially when you rub it all around from her labia downwards or if you are in the doggy position, you pour it on her butt and rub it downwards towards her vagina, finger her and finally introduce your dick. All that eases her mind to embrace the sensations for an easier orgasmic response.


While your tongue is on her clit and you’re sucking on it and licking her pussy lips, make sure to slide your finger or fingers in and out of her. It works best when you use two fingers in the ‘come here’ sign. It intensifies the pleasure and feels extra good. You should also finger her anus; it feels good! We love fingering and we love oral sex; so, doing both should feel extra and make it easy for us to reach a mind blowing orgasm


  1. Cow girl

This is my favorite position😍. Here, the woman gets to be on top and control the speed and angle; she can even touch herself while he’s going in and out of her. You’re able to gyrate your hips and get your clit to move against his groin for pleasure while controlling the movement of the dick in and out of you to hit your G-spot directly.

So, if you want an easy way to orgasm, just sit on his dick or get your woman to be on top.

  1. Doggy style

I love this position too! Bending over for the D allows for deep penetration, making it easy for the D to hit and stimulate the right spots. Plus, with your butt right under his nose, he can spank and squeeze it to intensify the pleasure you’re getting.

Now, what are you waiting for? Just bend over or get your girl to bend over to climax


I’ve mentioned this in my older posts and I’m going to mention it again here. The pelvic floor muscles are the muscles you contract when you try to hold back pee. These muscles are the same ones you contract during Kegels to strengthen the vaginal walls to make the vagina tighter and increase grip on the D during sex.

Now, did you know that clenching your vaginal walls, by contracting these muscles when the dick is inside you in any position, makes it easier for you to orgasm because it intensifies the pleasure attained when the dick moves in and out of you because of the grip and the friction? Yes! So make it a habit.


If you are really trying to get your woman to cum, make sure to take time with the foreplay. Kiss her long enough, lick and explore her body with your tongue and fingers, play with her sensitive body parts and get her to be so wet before penetrating.


Finally, find out which parts of her body are the most sensitive and play with them. Suck on her nipples while fingering her, kiss her inner thighs, kiss her butt, bite on it and stimulate the other spots to get her to be so aroused for an easier orgasm.

Just 8 Tips? Yeah! They are enough and if you take this post seriously like I expect you to, you will give your woman the multiple orgasms that every woman is capable of having. Or, you can guide your man and teach him how to give you the most intense orgasms.

Hit me up with your questions and I will answer them

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Ami Shikah is a Certified Sex Coach, clinical sexologist, and radio personality with an Advanced Postgraduate Diploma in Global Sexual and Reproductive Health Management. She loves anything and everything sex as long as it is consensual, pleasurable and free of any form of discrimination, harm or violence. On this blog, her aim is to promote sexual literacy, provide a source of arousal, and promote sexual wellness. If you need to talk to a sex professional about your sexual concerns or issues, she is the one to talk to. She can help you solve your sexual problems. She will help you have the most amazing sexual experiences and live the sex life of your dreams. Sex is a basic need and a natural part of who we are as human beings. Exercise your right to sexual pleasure today! Email her at for a complimentary sex coaching session.


  1. My girlfriend actually don’t like me going down here....she even doesn’t like me talking to her about it and even fingering her. I actually don’t know what to do

    • Have you seen my post on why women won’t allow you to go down on her? You should! Here’s the link 👇🏽

  2. Hello there please I used the first pills but the next processed with is the 4 pills had to insert but had one fall in water and I had the rest of three inserted please would it work thank you

  3. Hello ami I had sex with my boyfriend 4 days after my menses on 28th October this year and I took levon 2 the next day but today I had my menses am totally confused what might be wrong with me pls

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