Sexting and phone sex basically have to do with having suggestive or raunchy conversations on phone; it could be via text messages, phone calls, video calls or sharing of sultry images or videos with your partner. The main aim is arousal and a chance to masturbate in the process.
I wouldn’t be able to put a percentage on the number of people that actually sext but I’m here to give you a reason to do it if you don’t. I’m also here to tell you exactly how to do it the most effective way possible, since most people just don’t get it right.
I find that it’s usually men who initiate sexting and most suck at it. All they do is ask, ‘what are you wearing?’ or others go about it shabbily that, it makes you not want to ever give it a try, no matter how open-minded or adventurous you are.
Sexting is an art and until you understand how it works, you can never get it right. You may only have your girl cringing at the other end of the phone call or conversation wondering what the heck you think you’re doing because it’s doing absolutely nothing to her genitals.
I’m going to cite my first phone sex experience as an example.
P. S. I hope he doesn’t read this post. Mister, don’t get offended if you’re already on here.
So, I was in an on-and-off relationship with this guy back in ‘uni’ and one night, he asked if I had done it before. I said, ‘nah’ and he said, ‘let’s do it.’ Just like that! He wanted us to just have sex on phone and that moment I knew it wasn’t going to work because I wasn’t in the mood. He didn’t even know how to get me there.
Next thing I knew, he was talking all sexy and telling me to do things to my body. I tried! Yeah, I tried but it just wasn’t working so I stopped and pretended to be going along with whatever he was telling me to do. I don’t remember the exact words he was using but he just didn’t do it right. I fake-moaned and made him think I’d touched myself to orgasm when I had my panty on and it was as dry as the Arabian Desert.
This exact thing has being happening with so many girls and though as good partners, we aren’t supposed to lead you on wrongly, we still do it because we don’t want to burst your bubble.
NOW, the question is: Why Should You Consider Sexting or Phone Sex?
Sexting helps you understand yourselves, as a sexual couple, better. You get to talk about your sexual fantasies, anything you wish to be done to your body or anything you find embarrassing sexually. It’s all about sex, so it’s you breaking your sex lives down into words.
It helps improve your sex life. You get to explore your minds sexually and you get to bring up anything you’ve ever thought of, no matter how dirty or kinky: let your imaginations run wild, be silly, make it sexy, erotic and forget about how realistic it is. All that matters is your arousal in the moment, so say the dirtiest and the most erotic statements you can come up with.
Listen, I love cumming alone, but the feeling you get when you do it with that person you have something going on with is extra and once you feel it, there’s no way you’ll want to choose masturbating alone over doing it while sexting or while having phone sex
HOW SHOULD YOU GO ABOUT IT?
- Are you craving your man’s touch or do you miss your partner that much that you wanna hookup? Send that text and make it sexy and erotic. Don’t just send ‘you wanna meet up?’ Let your text immediately get them in that mood; it should make her clit throb or his dick hard.
Make it dirty and enticing by sending texts like:
‘I’m so tired. I want to fall asleep with you balls-deep inside me tonight.’
‘Babe, I miss you. I wish I could have your hard cock in my mouth right now.’
‘I wish you were here moving your long fingers in and out of me’
‘Come sit on my face tonight?’
‘How’s our little girl doing? Come over and lemme suck on her tonight?’
‘Wanna see how wet I am, just cause you came in mind?’
Play with your partners’ minds. Arouse their minds and let your text immediately bring to mind what you two do when you’re having sex. Let them crave that amazing feeling. Let them suddenly wish to be in your arms and let them immediately cancel plans, just to be with you.
2. Are you away from your partner but feel sexy and want to sext? You can send pictures. I strongly advise people who are not married against sending nude pictures to their partners no matter what. I wouldn’t do it even if I trusted my partner but that doesn’t mean you can’t send pictures.You don’t need to your take clothes off completely to get a sexy picture.
You can have your sexy and revealing lingerie on, take a pic and add a caption:
‘Wanna see what’s underneath?’
‘On a scale of 1-10, how sexy am I?’
You can be naked, hold a big towel to cover your boobs and your coochie and give that impression that if the towel falls off, all he’ll see will be your sexy naked body
Let your man think things on his own. Don’t take a pic of your bare boobs or vagina just because he asked you to or just because you want his attention. Be smart and cover your boobs with your arm; look sexy, pose sexily and send him a pic. Let him ache to see you take your arm off or whatever you have covering that part of your body off.
3. After you send the sultry images that aren’t showing your bare boobs and vagina, you can tease each other with words. You can describe what you wish to do to your partner’s body if you were together or tell them what you wish they would do to your body.
To make it easier, sometimes, you can just use your memories together. That one time that they did something that you liked so much, play around with those memories by text or on phone. All that can make both of you wet and rock-hard and you both can play with yourselves and masturbate while on phone.
Hearing each other moan or cum should make it sexier and make you feel closer than ever, though you may be miles apart.
4. You can also get your partner involved the next time you feel like touching yourself.
Just send a text like:
‘Was just thinking about you and I’m so horny. Wanna listen to me cum?’
This way, when you call him or they call you, you can leave it on loudspeaker, leave your phone by your side and touch yourself till you climax. While moaning so loud, your man should be able to picture you do whatever you’re doing to yourself and trust me, there is nothing as erotic as that. It should also turn him on and make him come for you right away or masturbate.
OTHER WAYS TO INITIATE IT
- You can simply send, ‘I miss you’
If he or she replies, ‘I miss you too,’ you go ahead to ask for details. That’s how to know if they’re up for something as heated as the sexting you have in mind. Or, you can go ahead to tell them,
‘I miss having you in my arms, your soft lips on mine and when you bite my lower lip and take out my hard boner from my pants.’
This should set the dirty conversation in motion and it should get her to tell you what she also misses from that heated moment you had.
3. You start by complimenting any part of your partner’s body that you find so attractive or that you like playing with during foreplay or an intimate session. Could be their curves, their huge dicks, their broad chest, their handy breasts, their cute butt or their tiny waist. Flattering them and letting them remember your hands or touch on those parts of their body should get them in that right state of mind for sexting.
4. You can also bring up the last time you hooked up. Replay everything that happened in words; how it began, where he touched, what you wished he or she should have done, whether they should’ve stayed in that spot for long, whether they should have kept spanking your ass, whether it should’ve been harder, how you loved it when he squeezed your breasts, how he took you by surprise and fingered you and how he hit your G-spot when you sat on his dick.
If the last time you hooked up wasn’t that fun, you can talk about how you wished it should’ve been. This should help you and your partner get it right the next time you meet up. And by talking about it the sexiest way, you arouse your senses and get so turned on with no option left than to run to each other’s arms if you aren’t so far from each other or to masturbate while listening to each other moan till you both climax.
This is one way to spice up your relationship; it makes it more interesting and no matter how sexy you already seemed to your partner, the level gets elevated.
Reader, what are you waiting for? Unless you don’t have a man like me, send that raunchy text now and take your partner’s mind to the wildest places in the sexual realm.
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Did you really say "unless you don't have a man like me" . Lol I don't want to believe that.
We have been in LDR for about 5yrs now. Regularly having phone sex. Tried everything common sex stories, video calls, previous/future hook ups, made up realities. Now we want to try something different and new.
Any ideas?
Really need help