In this post, I’m talking menstruation and intimacy. Most often than not, women use their period as an excuse to avoid having sex and they always get away with it. This is perfectly okay if you think period sex is disgusting and it’s okay too if you are not cool with intimacy when you are on your period. Also, if you don’t want to have sex with someone, I’m for sticking with that and cooking up any absurd excuse just to avoid doing it. You should only have sex because you want to.

This post is basically about wanting to do something with your man or woman and not letting the time of the month get in the way of that.

Before I say anything else, note that having an orgasm helps to relieve cramps. It’s not only about having sex. It has to do with anything that can make you cum. The release of endorphins and contraction of the uterine muscles during an orgasm acts as a pain reliever.

Let me use myself as an example. I get horny, like really horny when I’m on my period sometimes. If the urge is too strong, I just find a comfortable seat or I lie in my bed and squeeze my thighs together to get an orgasm and then, I’m good. Now, this is because I’m used to doing it alone and I don’t really have a man and I have an alternative to actually taking off my panty and touching myself or using my vibrator.

What happens if I have a man and we have to meet up or he asks me to come over but because of my period, I feel like I can’t? Do I always have to be away from my man when I’m on my period? What if we’re living together? What if we’re married? What if I want him so bad?

Here’s a list of things you can do with your partner when it’s that time of the month:


This is for those of you who cringe at the sight of blood and cannot go all the way with their partners when they have blood coming out of their vagina. You can spend some time with your partner, cuddle and have a good time and if you have the urge, keep your clothes on and hump till you both cum. I tried it once and I loved it. Usually the girl cums first and how often do you even get that during sex? You could even cum together at the same time.


You don’t want to see blood? Fine! You can kiss, give head, give a handjob, get him to suck your breasts and even get a steamy, hot massage. Do any other thing you can think of without having to take off your panty and trust me, there’s so much fun in that.


You have a tampon in there or a pad on and don’t want anything coming close to that area? Why not use the back door? The butthole isn’t involved in menstruation, so get a lubricant and make use of it when you’re trying to turn it up.


Some people have no problem with blood coming out of the vagina when a woman is on her period. They believe it’s a normal thing for an egg to disintegrate and come out as blood if it isn’t fertilized by a sperm cell. And they don’t let that get in the way of them having a good time with their partner. They even cherish the blood flow because it acts as extra lubrication and makes sex more enjoyable. Plus, you won’t have to worry about pregnancy because there’ll be no egg to fertilize (unless on rare occasions).

Since the sex is more enjoyable, it’s easier attaining orgasms and orgasms may relieve cramps and ease menstrual discomfort.

How do you make it less bloody and avoid staining the bedspread with too much blood?

  • Do it not on the first day of the period, but after the second day. There shouldn’t be so much blood.
  • If you want to do it on the first day, do it immediately after showering or better still, do it in the shower and you won’t have to deal with so much blood.
  • Get a big red towel, lay it on the bed and lie on it. Blood should spill on the towel instead of the bedspread and when you’re done, you won’t have to deal with seeing blood on the bed.
  • Right after you’re done, you clean up and put on your tampon or sanitary pad.
  • Use a condom to be on the safe side.
  • Feel free to give head if you want to. Unless she has an infection, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Don’t forget to find out if she’s cool with it before sticking your tongue down there.
  • NOTE: You will have to be really comfortable with your partner to get the most out of period sex. If you don’t think you are ready, let your partner know and dry hump if you don’t mind.

Though this isn’t exactly safe because of the long-term side effects, it’s still an option. There are so many things you can do to stop the blood flow if you really want to have sex with no blood involved. I have a post on that. Read it here.

What do you think? Do you have any questions or comments? Throw them in and don’t forget to share this post for others to read.

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Ami Shikah is a Certified Sex Coach, clinical sexologist, and radio personality with an Advanced Postgraduate Diploma in Global Sexual and Reproductive Health Management. She loves anything and everything sex as long as it is consensual, pleasurable and free of any form of discrimination, harm or violence. On this blog, her aim is to promote sexual literacy, provide a source of arousal, and promote sexual wellness. If you need to talk to a sex professional about your sexual concerns or issues, she is the one to talk to. She can help you solve your sexual problems. She will help you have the most amazing sexual experiences and live the sex life of your dreams. Sex is a basic need and a natural part of who we are as human beings. Exercise your right to sexual pleasure today! Email her at amishikah@gmail.com for a complimentary sex coaching session.

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