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HAVE & MAINTAIN A TIGHT VAGINA: PERMANENT VAGINAL TIGHTENING

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I have lost count of the number of times men have emailed or DMed me to ask about vaginal tightening. Most of them had concerns about how ‘loose’ their partners’ vagina felt during sex and wanted ways or products to make it tight. 

Vaginal tightening enhances pleasure for both men and women!

I understand why a cis man would be concerned about the tightness of his partner’s vagina. The friction felt during vaginal penetration creates sensations that enhance the pleasure and intensity of the session. In women also, tightness can make sex pleasurable because of friction. The vaginal walls tightly gripping the penis as it goes in and out creates pleasurable sensations in the walls too! Hence, both men and women enjoy sex better when the vagina feels tight. 

Do you ever wonder if your vagina might be considered loose? Click here to read an article that tells you what you need to know about ‘loose’ vaginas. 

WHAT KEEPS THE VAGINA TIGHT?

The vagina is made up of highly elastic tissues that are supported by pelvic floor muscles. These pelvic floor muscles’ strength determines how tight the vagina can get and how ‘loose’ it feels. So, if you want to have and maintain a tight vagina, you need to work on your pelvic floor muscles. It’s that simple! It gives you control over your vaginal tightness, and you can have so much fun with it during sex. You can make the vagina tight as the penis goes in and grip the penis tighter as you feel the entire length inside you. It can be intense for you (the woman) and the man. 

Frequent sex doesn’t make the vagina ‘loose’!

The truth is, the vagina feeling loose is usually not a permanent thing. It is elastic enough to stretch out and still be able to return to its original tightness. Hence, it is the reason why the vagina can stretch wide open during childbirth for a big baby to come out, and after 6 to 12 weeks, it goes back to being tight like a baby never came out of it. It is also the reason why the vagina can be very tight when the woman is not aroused, but upon arousal and when she is extremely wet, the vagina stretches out and feels less ‘tight’. After sex, when she is no longer wet (dry); the vagina goes back to being tight!

What makes the vagina ‘loose’ then?

Like I said, the pelvic floor muscles are what keep the vagina tight. Unfortunately, some factors can strain the muscles and weaken them, making the vagina less elastic. It is what makes the vagina feel ‘loose’, not frequent sex or a big dick. 

Factors that can weaken the vaginal/pelvic floor muscles:

  • Old age or menopause 
  • Childbirth 
  • Pelvic injury 
  • Weight gain
  • Low estrogen levels 

HEALTHY AND STRONG PELVIC FLOOR MUSCLES = A TIGHT VAGINA 

When the pelvic floor muscles/vaginal muscles are strong, the vagina tightens and stays tight. However, even though it is natural to lose that ‘tight’ feel sometimes, every woman needs to find a way to maintain her ‘tightness’ for the long term. There are exercises and pelvic stimulation techniques that should help every woman stay tight throughout sexual intercourse, even when she is extremely wet. It also makes it easier for the vagina to quickly go back to its original tightness after childbirth (whether single or multiple).

These exercises and pelvic stimulation techniques are the solutions to vaginal looseness. They are the safest ways to go about tightening the vagina for the long-term for improved sexual experiences. 

PELVIC EXERCISES 

Pelvic exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles to give you bladder control and control over your vaginal muscles (tightness) during sex. So, aside from having a tight vagina, it can help with urinary incontinence, where women accidentally pee or leak urine (it can be very embarrassing!)

1. KEGEL EXERCISES 

Kegel exercises involve contracting and relaxing your pelvic floor muscles a number of times. To do it, you need to first identify your pelvic floor muscles. You can do that when next you feel like peeing. Try as much as possible to hold in the urine like you usually do when you are out or looking to find a washroom. The muscles you hold up when you are desperately trying to prevent yourself from peeing are your pelvic floor muscles. 

If you still don’t get it, try to stop yourself from peeing the next time you are in the washroom. The muscles that you contract or hold up to stop yourself from peeing are your pelvic floor muscles. 

How To Do The Exercises: 

You need a timer!

  1. Contract your pelvic floor muscles (tighten the muscles by holding them in like you don’t want to pee on yourself) for five/ten seconds 
  2. Relax your muscles for ten seconds 
  3. Contract your pelvic floor muscles again for five/ten seconds 
  4. Relax the muscles for ten seconds 
  5. Contract and relax for eight more times. 

Do not tighten your butt or tummy during the exercises. Just focus on your pelvic floor muscles!

Do the above exercises daily or up to three times daily and after a while, give it a month, you will start noticing results.  

You can do Kegels anytime, anywhere! 

  1. While lying on your back
  2. While seated 
  3. While working 
  4. When you are out 

You can make it a part of your daily routine and even put it on your calendar each day to be reminded to do the exercises. In the long run, you will love how much control you will have over your vaginal muscles.

2. VAGINAL WEIGHTS OR CONES

Workouts are the most ideal for vaginal tightening because they easily give the best results! Vaginal weights add more resistance to the pelvic floor muscles during kegel exercises to build them up for strength. They should be the go-to for any woman who finds it hard locating her pelvic floor muscles or who cannot do the kegel exercises well enough.

Vaginal weights make kegel exercises more effective!

The weights make the tightening process faster. When inserted into the vagina, the vaginal muscles automatically squeeze or contract to hold them up (a way to prevent them from falling). Hence, once you have them inserted, try to hold them up more and relax your muscles after a few seconds like you would during kegel exercises. It works great!

How do you go about it?

Firstly, you need to find the right weights or cones. There are kegel balls (also called Ben Wa balls, orgasm balls, venus balls, jiggle balls, geisha balls, love balls and pleasure balls) you can use. You can get a set from any sex shop like BestVibe (if you are anywhere globally) or Odo Asem (if you are in Ghana). 

The weights usually come as a set, from heavy to heavier and heaviest. Some have single balls and double balls. As a beginner, you should start with the least heavy, insert it for short periods in a day in order not to strain your vaginal muscles, which can give you the opposite of what you are looking for. You can move on to the heavier balls after getting too used to using the less heavy ones.

What to do before and after inserting the balls? 

  1. Wash your hands well with antibacterial soap or soap 
  2. Wash the balls with antibacterial/unscented soap and wipe with a clean towel 
  3. Pour lots of water-based lubricant on the ball to lubricate it
  4. Make sure you are in a comfortable place (relaxed, lying down, or seated)
  5. Insert the lubricated ball
  6. Squeeze your vaginal muscles as you would during regular kegel exercises 
  7. Set your timer for five seconds 
  8. After five seconds, release/relax your muscles and rest for ten seconds 
  9. Squeeze your muscles again for five seconds 

It’s best to do the squeezes five times in a set to prevent straining of the vaginal muscles. Also, you can do the set at most three times a day (make sure you only do five squeezes for each set). You can do one before breakfast, one before lunch and one before going to bed. 

Using the balls before and during sex

  1. You can use kegel balls before sex to keep you sexually excited and make tightening during penetration easy. You can insert it when going for a date, for a few hours or a few minutes before sex. Once you are ready to fuck, as part of foreplay, your partner can remove it. It can be fun!
  2. You can use the ball during anal sex by keeping it in the vagina while the penis is in the anus/butthole. During anal sex, the balls are pushed up to stimulate the sensitive spots (A spot & G-spot) for pleasure. 
  3. The balls should never be inserted into the anus!! However, if you want to insert a ball in your anus, find one designed to fit in there with minimal risks. 

How To Remove The Balls? 

Be comfortable or lie down first. Then, put some lubricant in the vaginal opening to relax your muscles to make it easy for you to pull out the balls. Don’t force the balls out! If you pull it once and it doesn’t come out quickly, add more lubricant, walk around or jump, and the force can make the ball fall out. 

NB: Yoni eggs or pearls work great for kegel exercises too! Just find one with the right materials that won’t dissolve in the vagina to cause you harm. 

3. PELVIC TILT EXERCISES 

This exercise can be a great way to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles for a tighter vagina. To do it, you need to stand with your back, shoulders and butt against the wall. Then, breath in and pull your belly button downwards towards your spine so that you can feel your back flatten. Set a timer for 4 seconds during tightening, then release your belly button for like 5 seconds. Do it like ten times in a set and a number of times daily to see results. 

4. HAVE GREAT SEX!

Having great sex is one way the vagina can remain tight! During pleasurable sex and orgasms, the vagina contracts. The contraction and relaxation work out the vagina to keep the muscles strong. 

So, if you aren’t getting pleasure from your sexual encounters, you need to have the “what can we do to make sex better?” talk with your partner(s). 

OTHER WAYS TO KEEP THE VAGINA TIGHT

  1. Maintain a healthy eating lifestyle and eat food rich in fiber 
  2. Instead of sitting, squat when using the toilet during a bowel movement 
  3. Stay healthy by working out and maintain a healthy weight
  4. Do kegel exercises after these: 
  • When you are able to use the loo after being constipated 
  • After coughing and sneezing 
  • After heavy weight lifting

THE FEW RISKS TO DOING KEGEL EXERCISES! 

  1. Overexertion can strain the vaginal muscles 
  2. Pain and discomfort from the exercise
  3. Tearing of the vagina 

These risks are minimized or prevented when you do the squeezes for short periods each time. Five times is excellent when you are using vaginal weights. Also, always make sure you are comfortable before doing the exercises and always remember to wash the balls thoroughly before and after use. 

THE VAGINA SHOULD BE TIGHT BUT NOT TOO TIGHT 

Knowing how obsessed people are over tight vaginas, it is easy for people to use products and concoctions to tighten the vagina to an extent where penetration (sex) becomes uncomfortable and painful. 

The vagina should be tight and still maintain its elasticity to stretch upon arousal. If whatever product/technique you use for vaginal tightening takes away the elasticity, it will be doing you more harm than good. 

In some cases, a vagina that is too tight during sex can be caused by an underlying condition. It could be vaginismus (extreme vaginal tightness) or no arousal/insufficient lubrication (which can be mitigated if you do more foreplay and concentrate on what pleases the woman) 

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MENTAL HEALTH ADVOCATE, WRITER, SEX AND RELATIONSHIP EXPERT

Ami Shikah is a sex educator and mental health advocate. She is passionate about sex education and is working towards making her website/blog a place where people come to for knowledge and information that will help them make healthy decisions about sex and sexuality. Mental health isn't treated with much importance in her part of the world (Ghana, Africa) and as someone who has had to deal with depression and suicidal thoughts, she hopes to share her experiences with the world and help other people like her. She has in-depth knowledge about sex, sexual health, sexuality, vaginal health, pregnancy and abortion and is working to share it all with the world. She has also made it possible for people to ask questions and get answers to them anytime.

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