Vaginal Tightening: How to Tighten Your Vagina Naturally

Vaginal tightening is one of the most searched keywords on Google. Does that surprise you? I have lost count of the number of times both cis-men and cis-women have emailed or DMed me to ask about permanent vaginal tightening or how to tighten up the vagina. Most of them had concerns about how ‘loose’ their partners’ vagina felt during sex and wanted ways or products to tighten it. 

Vaginal tightening enhances pleasure for both men and women!

I understand why a cis man would be concerned about permanent vaginal tightening. The friction felt during vaginal penetration creates sensations that enhance the pleasure and intensity of the session. In women also, vaginal tightening can make sex pleasurable because of friction. When you tighten up the vaginal muscles, your walls grip the penis tightly as it moves in and out to create pleasurable sensations. This tight grip, also known as the gorilla grip, has been said by some cis-men to be uncomfortable sometimes, especially during orgasms. Yes! Vaginal tightening is highly possible when a vulva owner or cis women or trans man has orgasms often.

When women orgasm, the vaginal muscles contract. Meaning, they tighten up, relax, and tighten up again. That can strengthen the walls and with time, with the more orgasms you get, the more your vagina tightens up.

Do you ever wonder if your vagina might be considered loose? Click here to read an article that tells you what you need to know about ‘loose’ vaginas.

Natural Vaginal Tightening: How Can I Tighten My Vagina?

Vaginal tightening after birth

The vagina is made up of highly elastic tissues that are supported by pelvic floor muscles. These pelvic floor muscles’ strength contribute to vaginal tightening and also determine how ‘loose’ it feels. So, if you are looking to benefit from vaginal tightening and maintain that tight feel, you need to work on your pelvic floor muscles. It’s that simple! Strengthening your vaginal muscles gives you control over tightening, and you can have so much fun with the control during penetrative sex. You can employ vaginal tightening with kegels as the penis goes in, and grip the penis tighter as you feel the entire length inside you. It is what we call milking of the penis and it can be very pleasurable.

The easiest way to do this, is squeeze your inner vaginal muscles really tight as the penis is inside you. If you do it like you would during kegel exercises (explained below), you should feel your tight vaginal walls hug the penis and it can feel so good. It can be intense for you (the woman) and the man. 

Does Frequent Sex Impede Vaginal Tightening or Make the Vagina Loose?

Does sex make the vagina loose?

The truth is, the vagina feeling ‘loose’ is usually not a permanent thing. It is elastic enough to stretch out and still be able to return to its original tightness. Hence, it is the reason why the vagina can stretch wide open during childbirth for a big baby to come out, and after 6 to 12 weeks, it goes back to being tight like a baby never came out of it. It is also the reason why the vagina can be very tight when the woman is not aroused, but upon arousal and when she is extremely wet, the vagina stretches out and feels less ‘tight’. After sex, when she is no longer wet (dry); the vagina goes back to being tight! The body has it’s own natural vaginal tightening ability!

What makes the vagina ‘loose’ then?

Like I said, the pelvic floor muscles are what keep the vagina tight. Unfortunately, some factors can strain the muscles and weaken them, making the vagina less elastic. It is what makes the vagina feel ‘loose’, not frequent sex or a big dick. 

Factors that can weaken the vaginal/pelvic floor muscles:

  • Old age or menopause 
  • Childbirth 
  • Pelvic injury 
  • Weight gain
  • Low estrogen levels 

A Tight Vagina = Strong Pelvic Floor Muscles

When the pelvic floor muscles/vaginal muscles are strengthened, the vagina tightens and stays tight. However, even though it is natural to lose that ‘tight’ feel of the vagina sometimes, every woman needs to find a way to maintain her ‘tightness’ for the long term. There are exercises and pelvic stimulation techniques that should help every vulva owner’s vagina stay tight throughout sexual intercourse, even when she is extremely wet. It also makes it easier for the vagina to quickly go back to its original tightness after childbirth (whether single or multiple).

These exercises and pelvic stimulation techniques are the solutions to vaginal looseness. They are the safest ways to go about tightening the vagina for the long-term for improved sexual experiences. 

Pelvic Exercises To Tighten Up Vagina

Pelvic exercises to tighten up vagina for vaginal tightening

Pelvic exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles to give you bladder control and control over vaginal tightening during sex. So, aside from having a tight vagina, it can help with urinary incontinence, where women accidentally pee or leak urine (it can be very embarrassing!)


Kegel exercises involve contracting and relaxing your pelvic floor muscles a number of times. To do it, you need to first identify your pelvic floor muscles. You can do that when next you feel like peeing. Try as much as possible to hold in the urine like you usually do when you are out or looking to find a washroom. The muscles you hold up when you are desperately trying to prevent yourself from peeing are your pelvic floor muscles. 

If you still don’t get it, try to stop yourself from peeing the next time you are in the washroom. The muscles that you contract or hold up to stop yourself from peeing are your pelvic floor muscles. They can help you tighten up your vagina!

How To Do The Pelvic Exercises for Permanent & Natural Vaginal Tightening: 

You need a timer!

  1. Contract your pelvic floor muscles (tighten up the muscles by holding them in like you don’t want to pee on yourself) for five/ten seconds 
  2. Relax your muscles for ten seconds 
  3. Contract your pelvic floor muscles again for five/ten seconds 
  4. Relax the muscles for ten seconds 
  5. Contract and relax for eighteen more times (total = 20 times) 

Do not tighten up your butt or tummy during the exercises. Just focus on your pelvic floor muscles!

Do the Kegel exercises three times daily and after a while, give it a month, you will start noticing results.  

You can do Kegels anytime, anywhere! 

  1. While lying on your back
  2. While seated 
  3. While working 
  4. When you are out 

You can make it a part of your daily routine and even put it on your calendar each day to be reminded to do the exercises. In the long run, you will love how much control you will have over your vaginal muscles and your vagina will tighten up naturally. You can also make Kegel exercises a part of your sexual experiences for more pleasure if you tighten your vaginal muscles while a penis or toy is inside the vagina.


Kegel Balls and exercises for natural vaginal tightening

Workouts are the most ideal for vaginal tightening because they easily give the best results! Vaginal weights add more resistance to the pelvic floor muscles during kegel exercises to build them up for strength. They should be the go-to for any woman who finds it hard locating her pelvic floor muscles or who cannot do the kegel exercises well enough.

Vaginal weights make kegel exercises more effective!

The weights make the tightening process of the vaginafaster. When inserted into the vagina, the vaginal muscles automatically squeeze or contract to hold them up (a way to prevent them from falling). Hence, once you have them inserted, try to hold them up more and relax your muscles after a few seconds like you would during kegel exercises. It works great to tighten up the vagina!

How do you go about it?

Vaginal weights to tighten up vagina

Firstly, you need to find the right weights or cones. There are kegel balls (also called Ben Wa balls, orgasm balls, venus balls, jiggle balls, geisha balls, love balls and pleasure balls) you can use. You can get a set from any sex shop like BestVibe (if you are anywhere globally) or Odo Asem (if you are in Ghana). 

The weights usually come as a set, from heavy to heavier and heaviest. Some have single balls and double balls. As a beginner, you should start with the least heavy, insert it for short periods in a day in order not to strain your vaginal muscles, which can give you the opposite of what you are looking for. You can move on to the heavier balls after getting too used to using the less heavy ones.

What to do before and after inserting the balls? 

  1. Wash your hands well with antibacterial soap or soap 
  2. Wash the balls with antibacterial/unscented soap and wipe with a clean towel 
  3. Pour lots of water-based lubricant on the ball to lubricate it
  4. Make sure you are in a comfortable place (relaxed, lying down, or seated)
  5. Insert the lubricated ball
  6. Squeeze your vaginal muscles as you would during regular kegel exercises 
  7. Set your timer for five seconds 
  8. After five seconds, release/relax your muscles and rest for ten seconds 
  9. Squeeze your muscles again for five seconds 

It’s best to do the squeezes five times in a set to prevent straining of the vaginal muscles. Also, you can do the set at most three times a day (make sure you only do five squeezes for each set). You can do one before breakfast, one before lunch and one before going to bed. 

Using the balls before and during sex to tighten up vagina

  1. You can use kegel balls before sex to keep you sexually excited and make vaginal tightening during penetration easy. You can insert it when going for a date, for a few hours or a few minutes before sex. Once you are ready to fuck, as part of foreplay, your partner can remove it. It can be fun!
  2. You can use the ball during anal sex by keeping it in the vagina while the penis is in the anus/butthole. During anal sex, the balls are pushed up to stimulate the sensitive spots (A spot & G-spot) for pleasure. 
  3. The balls should never be inserted into the anus!! However, if you want to insert a ball in your anus, find one designed to fit in there with minimal risks. 

How To Remove The Balls? 

Be comfortable or lie down first. Then, put some lubricant in the vaginal opening to relax your muscles to make it easy for you to pull out the balls. Don’t force the balls out! If you pull it once and it doesn’t come out quickly, add more lubricant, walk around or jump, and the force can make the ball fall out. 

NB: Yoni eggs or pearls work great for kegel exercises too! Just find one with the right materials that won’t dissolve in the vagina to cause you harm. 


This exercise can be a great way to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles for a tighter vagina. To do it, you need to stand with your back, shoulders and butt against the wall. Then, breath in and pull your belly button downwards towards your spine so that you can feel your back flatten. Set a timer for 4 seconds during tightening, then release your belly button for like 5 seconds. Do it like ten times in a set and a number of times daily to see results. 


Having great sex is one way the to tighten up the vagina! During pleasurable sex and orgasms, the vagina contracts. The contraction and relaxation work out the vagina to keep the muscles strong. 

So, if you aren’t getting pleasure from your sexual encounters, you need to have the “what can we do to make sex better?” talk with your partner(s). 


  1. Maintain a healthy eating lifestyle and eat food rich in fiber 
  2. Instead of sitting, squat when using the toilet during a bowel movement 
  3. Stay healthy by working out and maintain a healthy weight
  4. Do kegel exercises after these: 
  • When you are able to use the loo after being constipated 
  • After coughing and sneezing 
  • After heavy weight lifting


  1. Overexertion can strain the vaginal muscles 
  2. Pain and discomfort from the exercise
  3. Tearing of the vagina 

These risks are minimized or prevented when you do the squeezes for short periods each time. Five times is excellent when you are using vaginal weights. Also, always make sure you are comfortable before doing the exercises and always remember to wash the balls thoroughly before and after use. 


Knowing how obsessed people are over tight vaginas, it is easy for people to use products and concoctions to tighten the vagina to an extent where penetration (sex) becomes uncomfortable and painful. 

The vagina should be tight and still maintain its elasticity to stretch upon arousal. If whatever product/technique you use for vaginal tightening takes away the elasticity, it will be doing you more harm than good. 

In some cases, a vagina that is too tight during sex can be caused by an underlying condition. It could be vaginismus (extreme vaginal tightness) or no arousal/insufficient lubrication (which can be mitigated if you do more foreplay and concentrate on what pleases the woman) 

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Remember, anything you do sexually can be done safely to avoid unwanted consequences. Vaginal tightening is one of them. You can tighten up the vagina naturally with your regular home remedies like kegels, getting orgasms, using vaginal weights, etc. Follow what I’ve stated and you won’t have to worry about vaginal tightening anymore!

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Ami Shikah is a Certified Sex Coach, clinical sexologist, and radio personality with an Advanced Postgraduate Diploma in Global Sexual and Reproductive Health Management. She loves anything and everything sex as long as it is consensual, pleasurable and free of any form of discrimination, harm or violence. On this blog, her aim is to promote sexual literacy, provide a source of arousal, and promote sexual wellness. If you need to talk to a sex professional about your sexual concerns or issues, she is the one to talk to. She can help you solve your sexual problems. She will help you have the most amazing sexual experiences and live the sex life of your dreams. Sex is a basic need and a natural part of who we are as human beings. Exercise your right to sexual pleasure today! Email her at amishikah@gmail.com for a complimentary sex coaching session.

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