Have you ever wondered what sex coaching entails? I, Ami Shikah, am a sex coach and in this blog post, I will tell you all about what I do and how I can help you or anyone with their sex lives.
What is Sex Coaching?
Sex coaching is a results-focused approach that aims to resolve sexual and relationship issues and enhance the sexual experiences of individuals and couples. It addresses a wide range of issues including:
- Male Issues:
- Low or no sexual desire (LD)
- Early ejaculation (EE)
- Erectile dysfunction (ED)
- Delayed ejaculation (DE)
- Sexual inhibition (SI)
- Body dysphoria issues (BD)
- Social/dating skills deficit (SDSD)
- Desire for enhanced pleasure (EP)
- Sexual trauma (ST)
- Female Issues:
- Low or no sexual desire (LD)
- Early ejaculation (EE)
- Erectile dysfunction (ED)
- Delayed ejaculation (DE)
- Sexual inhibition (SI)
- Body dysphoria issues (BD)
- Social/dating skills deficit (SDSD)
- Desire for enhanced pleasure (EP)
- Sexual trauma (ST)
- “Couples” Issues
- The sexless relationship: little or no sex in the relationship
- Aversion to touch or misplaced touch communication
- Conflicts about desire/uneven desire (UD)
- Conflicting values about monogamy/affairs
- Performance skills deficit (PSD)
- Body image issues (BI) Communication style conflicts (CS)
- Negotiation skills deficit (NSD)
The process of sex coaching is different for every client and it depends on the individual’s needs and goals. The sessions are talk-only and can be done online or in person. Sex coaches do not act as sexual partners. They don’t provide any form of physical touch or engage in any sexual activities. They are there to help you gain the skills, knowledge, and understanding to have a more fulfilling and satisfying sexual life.
Typically, a sex coach will start by having an initial consultation with the client, during which they’ll discuss their goals and any concerns they have. From there, the sex coach will develop a personalized plan to help the client achieve their goals. This might involve exercises, reading assignments, and homework, as well as regular check-ins to track progress.
Sex coaches use a variety of techniques to help clients achieve their goals, which can include teaching communication skills, providing information on sexual anatomy and physiology, and helping clients explore their desires and boundaries.
Another Aspect of Sex Coaching
Sex coaches help clients understand and explore their own desires and boundaries. Many people have never given much thought to what they truly want sexually, and a sex coach can help them identify and articulate their desires. This can be especially important for those who have difficulty communicating about sex with their partners. By learning how to talk openly and honestly about what they want and don’t want, clients can improve their sexual experiences and relationships.
Sex coaching can also be beneficial for individuals and couples who want to experiment with different types of sexuality and kink. A sex coach can help them explore this safely and consensually.
Sex Coaching is not Sex Therapy
It’s important to note that sex coaching is not the same as sex therapy, which is typically conducted by licensed therapists and focuses on treating mental health conditions related to sex and relationships. Sex coaches are not licensed mental health professionals and do not diagnose or treat mental health conditions. Instead, they focus on helping clients improve their sexual experiences and relationships.
What if You Don’t Have a Sexual Problem?
Sex coaching is not just for those who are experiencing problems in their sexual lives. It can also be beneficial for people who simply want to explore their sexuality more fully or deepen their connection with their partner(s). In fact, many people seek out sex coaching as a way to enhance their sex lives and take them to the next level.
Who will Benefit from Sex Coaching?
It’s also worth mentioning that sex coaching can be beneficial for people of all ages and genders, and can be done on a solo or couple-based approach. The sex coach focuses on creating a safe, non-judgmental, and confidential environment for clients to express their thoughts and feelings.
Additionally, sex coaching can also be beneficial for people who may be in the process of a gender transition or are questioning their sexual orientation. A sex coach will work with these clients to understand their unique needs and help them navigate the challenges that may arise.
Many people have misconceptions about sex and may feel ashamed or embarrassed to talk about it. A sex coach can help to normalize these conversations and provide a safe space to talk about sexual desires and experiences. The sex coach can help to reframe negative thoughts and beliefs that may be holding the clients back, and empower them to feel confident in their sexuality.
Sex coaches can also help couples understand how to bring their sexual fantasies and desires into their relationship, how to navigate the topic of non-monogamy, or how to enjoy a fulfilling sexual life despite physical limitations or disabilities.
Some sex coaches may also specialize in specific areas, such as working with individuals who want to improve their sexual performance, or helping couples to reconnect after a period of sexual disconnection. Some may focus on working with specific populations, such as people who are 50 and above, LGBTQIA+ individuals, or people who have experienced sexual trauma.
Finding the Right Sex Coach for You
When looking for a sex coach, it’s important to find someone who you feel comfortable with and trust. This is someone who you’ll be sharing very personal information with, so it’s important to have a good rapport. Many sex coaches, like me, offer free consultations so you can get a sense of whether or not they’re a good fit for you.
You need to know that sex coaching is not a regulated profession, so anyone can call themselves a sex coach. Hence, It is important to make sure that the coach you’re considering is properly trained and qualified. You can find out if they are legit by checking out the World Association of Sex Coaches (WASC) website for their name and qualification. Go through the list on the website and see if you can find their name. You can also check their client reviews or work with sex coaches who are referred to you by their clients or other professionals.
Paying for a Session
Sex coaching may not be covered by insurance, so clients should be prepared to pay out of pocket for the sessions. The cost of sex coaching can vary depending on the location and the coach’s level of experience and expertise. Some coaches offer sliding scale fees based on income, and some may offer package deals for a certain number of sessions. It’s important to discuss cost and payment options with the coach before starting any sessions.
More About Sex Coaching
Sex coaching can be done in combination with other forms of therapy or treatment. For example, if an individual is receiving therapy for a mental health condition that is impacting their sexual experiences, a sex coach can work alongside their therapist to address the specific sexual issues they are facing. Similarly, if an individual is receiving treatment for a physical condition that affects their sexual function, a sex coach can help them to learn how to manage those symptoms and improve their sexual experiences.
Sex coaching can also be used in premarital counseling, where couples can benefit from discussing their sexual expectations and desires before getting married.
It’s worth mentioning that sex coaching is not a one-size-fits-all solution and what works for one person may not work for another. It’s important to have realistic expectations and be open to trying different approaches and methods to find what works best for you. Some people may not feel comfortable working one-on-one with a coach, in such cases, group coaching or workshops can be an alternative option to consider. Group coaching sessions can provide an opportunity for individuals to share their experiences and learn from one another, in a safe and supportive environment. Workshops can also provide valuable information and tools on specific topics related to sexual well-being, in a more affordable and accessible format.
Additionally, sex coaching can be a valuable tool for individuals and couples who may have cultural, religious, or personal reasons that may have affected their sexual experiences or relationships. A coach who is aware and sensitive to different cultural backgrounds and beliefs can help to create a safe and non-judgmental environment where clients can express themselves freely and openly, and work towards their goals.
What Else?
Sex coaching is a process, not a one-time event. It takes time and effort to see real change and improvements. The key is to remain consistent, open-minded and willing to put in the work in order to achieve your goals.
Book a free sex coaching session with me to see how I can help you. Call or WhatsApp +233559087628 or send me an email at amishikah@gmail.com. You will benefit from the process!
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