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Ladies, Be Sexy For Your Man! Learn How To Grind, Twerk And Give Him A Lap Dance

Sexy, erotic dances like twerking, lap dance, grinding on a partner or dancing during a striptease can be a great way to seduce your partner, turn them on and give them pleasure. It can be a great way to be sexy for your man, woman or partner.

Unfortunately, several couples do not incorporate dancing in their sexual routines. I love to create my own club room at home with the lights off, neon lights on, and turn on music that I can whine my waist, twerk, grind and give my partner a lap dance to. It can be so arousing for me when I do that especially because if I am giving a man a lap dance, I move my hips and butt to directly stimulate his penis to the point of erection. That is how powerful sexy, erotic dances can be! They can make you cum if you keep stimulating your nerve endings till it culminates into an orgasm.

Do I Need To Learn How to Twerk & Give my Partner a Lap Dance?

I know how easy it is to say, ‘ooh I don’t know how to twerk,’ ‘I’m not that flexible to whine my waist or grind on a man,’ ‘I don’t like dancing,’ or ‘I don’t know how to give anyone a lap dance.

Listen, if you don’t try to learn anything, you might never realize you are good at anything. Sometimes, just trying can be your key to finding out you are good at it. Luckily, there are several YouTube videos you can watch to learn how to dance sensually, seduce a partner by dancing, give a lap dance, grind on a partner, whine your waist, or do a strip tease.

Remember, it can take a while for you to get it. You need to be patient and devote time regularly to learning how to do various sexy, erotic dance routines.

How to be Be Sexy for your Partner?

Being sexy comes from within. It comes with feeling comfortable in your own skin, wearing clothes that make you good in a sexual way and moving in a sensual way. Think about this: have you ever looked in the mirror and thought, ‘wow, I’m so sexy?’

Or wait, what’s your definition of sexy? What does sexy look like to you? What does sexy feel like to you?

Now, try to dress and move like the ‘sexy’ you imagined. If you aren’t getting it, think about the sexiest song you know. Now, try to envision yourself dressing up to dance in the music video of that song. What outfit do you have on? What do you look like? Are you naked? What are you doing? Are you drinking anything?

What you envision should give you an idea of what it means to you to be sexy and channel that in your clothing choices, and looks.

Personally, heels add up to my feeling of being sexy. I feel more confident too. Taking care of myself, knowing I look good and feeling from within that I look good contribute to how sexy I’m feeling also.

You need to be able to feel sexy on your own or when you look in the mirror before you can try to be sexy for a partner. With that, it comes naturally. Just be yourself and do your thing, and let them be enchanted by your aura as they play your audience.

Learning How To Give A Lap Dance/Twerk or do a Sexy Dance

how to be sexy for your man

It can be so fun to learn sexy and seductive dance routines that can make your partner (husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, fling, etc.) want you. It makes you the sexiest woman on the planet when you are able to give your partner the sexiest dance treats. Let them come home to see you wearing thongs or very sexy lingerie, ask them to take their seat in a nice comfy chair, you can put on a show for them.

How To Give A Lap Dance

  1. Sit on your partner’s laps
  2. Make sure you are comfortable and gyrate your hips
  3. If your back is facing them, rest your palms on your knees or the arm of your chair and rub your butt forward and backwards slowly
  4. If you are facing your partner, focus on rubbing your vulva on your partner’s lap in such a way that your clit can be stimulated. If they have a penis, use more pressure as you rub in order to get pleasure from the stimulation.

Remember to do what feels sexy to you while rubbing your butt on your partner slowly, in different angles to turn them on. If your partner has a penis, focus on rubbing on the penis. Rub from the base towards the tip, go back and rub it again until you start to feel them get hard. Be intentional with the way your rub your butt on a cisman, so you can elicit arousal.

How to Twerk for Your Partner

how to twerk and be sexy for partner

  1. Stand with your feet apart
  2. Bend and hold your knees
  3. Bend your back inwards
  4. To twerk, pop your butt up and down slowly. Pretend you are throwing your butt up to reach the roof or sky.
  5. Pop your butt up slowly, bring it back down, pop it up again, and bring it down.

Twerking is a great way to feel more feminine, confident and improve your sex life. In the cowboy sex position, with music playing, you can ride your partner better if you know how to give a lap dance. You can twerk on your partner’s penis in the reverse cowgirl position and make sex more exciting for yourself and your partner.

Other Ways Ladies Can Be Sexy:

  1. Get on the Dining Table!

You turn your dining table into a dance floor for your partner sometimes. Get onto it, crawl towards them, move your body and waist seductively while teasing them. You can have your index finger or thumb in your mouth while you suck on it. You can keep your eyes fixated on theirs and make sounds as you suck to turn them on the more.

What’s more, you can rub your fingers and hands all over your body, slowly from your neck downwards. Trace your fingers along parts of your body that your partner loves to touch or play with during sex, and tease them the more.

2. Go Clubbing!

Once a while, you can go with your partner(s) to a pub or the club and dance with them. You could go for a Kizomba, Kizalsa or Salsa dance session with them occasionally and trust me, you will love the experience. Such moments can strengthen the bond of a relationship and for heterosexual couples, the cis-woman bringing up new ideas of sexy things to do can be empowering to the relationship.

Do you have any questions, comments or experiences to share, share them in the comments or Get in Touch with Ami.

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Erotic dances can be very beneficial to relationships and to your sex life. What are you waiting for? Learn how to be sexy for your partner, how to move your waist sensually, give a lap dance, twerk and turn your partner on by dancing alone or with them. Let me know how it goes when you finally get it?



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Ami Shikah is a Certified Sex Coach, clinical sexologist, and radio personality with an Advanced Postgraduate Diploma in Global Sexual and Reproductive Health Management. She loves anything and everything sex as long as it is consensual, pleasurable and free of any form of discrimination, harm or violence. On this blog, her aim is to promote sexual literacy, provide a source of arousal, and promote sexual wellness. If you need to talk to a sex professional about your sexual concerns or issues, she is the one to talk to. She can help you solve your sexual problems. She will help you have the most amazing sexual experiences and live the sex life of your dreams. Sex is a basic need and a natural part of who we are as human beings. Exercise your right to sexual pleasure today! Email her at for a complimentary sex coaching session.


  1. I love it
    Women need to spice up not just be the boring ones

  2. Pls my lady took in cour tablets of misoprostol after five hours she started bleeding n lata stopped...will she continue bleeding or what..

    • How long did she bleed? She should wait a few days after and go for an ultrasound. It’s possible the abortion wasn’t successful so she should go and check if the baby is still in her womb

  3. Hi Ami,
    I got mimibon instead of medabon
    He told me to take in the first one and after three hours I insert the remaining one but am confuse whether I should insert it 24hours after the first one

    • It's supposed to be five pills in all. The last time someone came here to ask about mimibon, her abortion wasn't successful. Get the right drug pls

  4. Hi Amy.
    I took four tablets of misoprotol around 11pm yesterday and today I am having cramps, fluid like discharge and little blood clots.
    Please what should I do?

  5. I took four tablets of misoprostol for removal of two weeks pregnancy.
    I am not bleeding, just fluid like discharge and little blood clots.
    What should I do?

    • Are you bleedung now? If not, you have to do it all over again and this time, follow my procedure

  6. I am bleeding now. Started since Sunday evening.
    I am having cramps too

  7. Please am in accra where can i get the pills to buy am one month pregnant

  8. I inserted the pills last night but no bleeding up to now but I’m having cramps

  9. Please I need some of the pill to buy...I’m 1 month pregnant

  10. I always experience pain during urination after I have had sex. pls what’s the cause?

  11. How do I get the drug

  12. Plz how do I get de pills to buy.what's the cost

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