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WHY MEN LOVE TO SEND DICK PICS (UNSOLICITED AND SOLICITED)

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I remember the first time I received a dick pic. I was 11 or 12 and was using an instant messenger when an Asian/Indian/Pakistan man sent me his dick pic and asked to see mine (tits and vagina). I was taken aback and closed the window immediately. Pervert! Years after, I was having a conversation with a friend who out of nowhere sent me his dick pic when we were having a conversation. It was so unexpected and felt so wrong because this was someone I’d never had sexual conversations with; our friendship was platonic. He sent his dick and asked for nudes after. I was mad when I saw the dick pic, deleted it immediately, and warned him to never try that with me again. Weeks or months after, I found out from a mutual girlfriend that he had a habit of sending his dick pics to girls because he assumed that his 8+ inches would impress and whip them into a sexual frenzy. I mean, he thought sending his dick pics would make girls want to send him their nudes. 

If you are a woman reading this, you might relate to my story or you might have received unsolicited dick pics from friends, strangers, employers, coworkers, or relatives even. I know how disturbing it can be! Some men even airdrop their dick pics to anyone whose phone can receive it. It’s so inappropriate and I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve received an unwelcome dick pic from both strangers and friends. It is sexual harassment and it appears that most men do not know it or they just don’t care. 

In this article, I will delve into the reasons why men love to send dick pics (both solicited and unsolicited). It isn’t to urge any man who loves sending unsolicited dick pics on. It is wrong! You just need to understand that since it’s a trend, there is definitely a driving force or reasons behind it. Unless you have consent, you have no business sending your dick pics to anybody.

SOLICITED VS UNSOLICITED DICK PICS 

The main difference between solicited and unsolicited dick pics is CONSENT. Just like sex, you need consent before sending anyone nudes. It’s a simple rule! If you don’t have consent, don’t initiate a sexual conversation, sexting, or phone sex with anyone. Don’t send unsolicited nudes, sexual images, and videos! Once you do it, you violate the person’s consent and they have every right to report you for sexual assault. 

WHY DO THEY LOVE TO SEND DICK PICS?

  1. FLIRTATION AND COURTING TOOL 

Some men flirt by sending dick pics. To them, if you are trying to pursue a girl or court her, sending her a dick pic is a sure way to get her attention especially if the size is what is perceived to be the ideal penile size. They sometimes expect women to want to have sex with them after seeing their dick pic. Unknown to them, unless it’s solicited, sending unsolicited dick pics is a massive turnoff for most women. Once you do that, you are labeled a pervert and it can make a woman who once thought of you as sexually attractive lose interest in you. 

2. TO CONFIRM A WOMAN’S INTEREST IN HAVING SEX WITH THEM 

Some men love to send dick pics to women who they assume like them or want to have sex with them. If they get a positive reaction, it gives them the go-ahead to ask for sex or set a date for a session. If they get a negative reaction, it gives them no reason to pursue the woman. 

3. TO GET NUDES FROM WOMEN 

Some men send dick pics with multiple women – it could be three, five, ten, or more – with hopes that at least one or more will be sexually excited enough to send them nudes in return. It’s more like, ‘because I want to receive nudes, I should send nudes to give people a reason to give me what I want.’ Interestingly, some women respond positively by sending nudes when they receive unsolicited dick pics. Hence, it urges the men to keep doing it! It’s wrong!

4. EXHIBITIONISM & THEY LOVE THE REACTION THEY GET

Some men get turned on by the whole idea of coercing a stranger to see their dick pics. They love the thrill and it is the reason why they would go to the extent of using airdrop/send it to multiple women on social media. They are also turned on by the reactions they expect to get like DISGUST, admiration, praise, or arousal. I mean, it’s okay to be an exhibitionist if the people watching consents to it. If not, it is wrong and disgusting!  

5. ASSUMPTION THAT WOMEN LOVE DICK PICS & TO TURN THEM ON

Because of porn and the fuss over big dicks, some men assume that women love to see dick pics. Hence, such men send unsolicited pics with hopes of pleasing them and arousing them. Also, most of these men are okay with receiving unsolicited nudes from women or have received unsolicited nudes from women, so they assume that it’s okay to send nudes to people without consent. Hello, IT IS NOT OKAY! 

Women who love dic pics appreciate it or are aroused by it when it’s solicited. So, get consent!

6. SEXISM OR AN ACT OF HOSTILITY TO WOMEN 

Some men hate women so much that they try to elicit rage or disgust from them by sending them dick pics. They know that you don’t like to receive unsolicited dick pics but because they hate you, they send them to you to make you mad and ruin your day. Block anyone who does that to you!

7. DOMINANCE AND POWERPLAY 

A dominant usually loves to exercise control, tell you what to do, and choose when you do something. In this case, some doms would send you dick pics when you haven’t uttered a word about wanting to see one. They send it because they want you to see it and you have no say. Unless you have a consensual relationship with a person and there’s an agreement, don’t send unsolicited dick pics to anyone!

8. IMPULSIVITY 

Lacking impulse control can make some men who take nudes send them out to anyone. Sometimes it could be under the influence of alcohol or hard drugs. Listen, even though it’s one reason behind the sending of dick pics, it’s not a good excuse. You need impulse control! Don’t send unsolicited dick pics!

9. SEX OR PORN ADDICTION 

Addiction to sex or porn is among the worst things that can happen to any sexually active person. It means you have no control over your urges; once an idea comes to mind, you have to do it because your horniness says so. In such cases, some addicts take dick pics when they are horny and send them out to any woman they can send them to. It can be followers on social media, celebrities, crushes, etc. If you are an addict or you feel you are losing control over your sexual urges, get help now. Don’t wait till it gets you into trouble. Click HERE for a recovery exercise that can help you overcome your addiction

10. NARCISSISM, BRAGGING AND A BOOST IN EGO

Narcissism can make men think too highly of their dicks. It can make them think that their dicks is the best dick ever and their desperate need for attention and admiration pushes them to send dick pics to women. They just want to brag and show off what they have and they expect the recipients to give positive remarks. Once again, this is not a good excuse to send unsolicited dick pics. Always seek consent first!

11. TO BOOST THEIR SELF-ESTEEM

Some men have low self-esteem, so they send out dick pics to get women to want them and find them attractive. It’s a desperate need to feel better about themselves and the positive reactions they hope to get gives them some form of validation that they are good enough. 

I don’t care what your reason for sending unsolicited dick pics is. It’s a violation of consent and shouldn’t be encouraged. Don’t be an abuser! Seek consent and respect yourself. It’s a basic thing to do and it’s sexy when you have consent. 

Do you have any questions, comments, or stories to share? Let me know in the comments and I will reply in no time. 

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MENTAL HEALTH ADVOCATE, WRITER, SEX AND RELATIONSHIP EXPERT

Ami Shikah is a sex educator and mental health advocate. She is passionate about sex education and is working towards making her website/blog a place where people come to for knowledge and information that will help them make healthy decisions about sex and sexuality. Mental health isn't treated with much importance in her part of the world (Ghana, Africa) and as someone who has had to deal with depression and suicidal thoughts, she hopes to share her experiences with the world and help other people like her. She has in-depth knowledge about sex, sexual health, sexuality, vaginal health, pregnancy and abortion and is working to share it all with the world. She has also made it possible for people to ask questions and get answers to them anytime.

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